Why Do Narcissists Block You? (What’s Going On in their Head When Doing This?)

by Ella Carrillo · January 25, 2023

Why do Narcissists Block You? Narcissists tend to just ignore many situations or just do not prefer to get involved in the emotional drama and lurking of an ex. So narcissists choose ways like blocking, avoiding, gaslighting, ghosting, and any type of methods that can help them in avoiding a certain somebody when they feel they do not wish to get involved in certain situations.

If you might have been with a narcissist, as a dating partner or a friend, or a potential victim for obtaining their narcissistic supply, then you might know very well that narcissists are afraid to commit and they avoid getting into emotional drama or the melodramatic situations created by their exes, friends or acquaintances. Narcissists even cannot take it when someone tries to prove them incorrect or somehow highlight their wrongdoings, they get very upset and tend to project unwanted actions and try creating scenarios where they do not fall under the wrongdoer category.

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The making of a narcissist – Why do narcissists behave the way they do?

Narcissists behave differently and are unlikely from others which is why they are not admired by others. They can be the most difficult and demanding individuals to have around in your life. If you have a narcissistic family member or a narcissistic partner then dealing with them in the most effective and positive ways becomes the first priority rather than confronting and making a mess out of relations. It is very important to understand how a narcissist considers family and what they think about family and on the other hand, how would a family member feels having a narcissist around and being treated with ordeal amounts of toxicity.

Often it is observed by mental health experts, that the children raised by narcissists have childhood trauma, which affects their upbringing and also makes the same or even more narcissistic than their parents. Narcissistic parents are almost emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and egoistic, lash out in anger more frequently, have a very low rate of understanding, and blame the child, rather than looking at their fault or understanding their child. Thus when the children of such narcissistic parents become adults in such a negative atmosphere, they are unable to unlearn all those toxic traits as they have never seen the other side of humanity.

Why Do Narcissists Block You? – What’s Going on in their Head when doing this?

A narcissist’s thought processes and reflexes are a little impossible to predict precisely. They act impulsively out of rage when proven wrong or pointed fingers at. Narcissists are passive-aggressive beings, who fail to connect emotionally with their loved ones hence they use various methods to feel powerful. Their actions always differ from what they have to say or believe. They are prone to create an imaginary world, where they say and make all crude, concrete, and everlasting promises and false and fictitious scenarios but indeed are rudimentary about the execution of those. So when you date a narcissist, you are always blinded by their fake and goody personality initially but are constantly manipulated throughout the course of your relationship.

So when there is an inconvenience or a displeasing situation created by you in the relationship, narcissists tend to either try to teach you a lesson by blocking or cutting the means of communication with you, or sometimes they simply want to have control and sadistic pleasure by harassing you and making you worried by blocking all sources of communication even though the issue created by you is just minor and can be sorted without involving the drama or blocking and unblocking and all the manipulation of emotions.

Narcissists can be some of the most difficult people to deal with. If you have to deal with a narcissist in your life without much choice, you might be knowing how difficult it is. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health condition, where the patient has extremely high admiration for their self which includes boosted self-esteem, self-centeredness, high self-worth, boosted ego, and a low tolerance for criticism, emotions, and attachments.

To establish their control over you
To punish you
To redirect their anger which is caused by someone else or something else
To prove a point
When they have found a new source for obtaining their narcissistic supply
To spice up the relationship
It is just a choice made by solely the narcissist to feel powerful and it has nothing to do with you
When a narcissist feels that you longer can provide them with what they want

1. To establish their control over you

A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life. When a Narcissist cannot control you, they would be behaving more arrogantly and you might notice many changes in their behavior. They become the most difficult to deal with when they lose control or they may become completely different and would do such stuff t draw attention. One of the things that they do is block you.

After losing control, a Narcissist would try all sorts of techniques to gain back control over you and the situation. Thus narcissists would block you just to gain control over you, and once they feel they have control they might unblock you.

2. To punish you

If you have been with a narcissist then you might be familiar with the silent treatment, the no-answers zone, the ignoring phase, or the block game when there are any issues or inconveniences and misunderstandings in the relationship. Being with a narcissist is as is tough and it needs a lot of perseverance to keep the relationship going with them.

But when they feel you have got the taste of your punishment they would unblock you for getting benefits from you. This goes on frequently, they would block you and leave you to figure out the rest on your own. They like to do this and make you restless and concerned. Narcissists love to play games hence they would play the blocking-unblocking game frequently.

When they feel satisfied punishing you, or see you suffering enough, or when they feel you are miserable enough for doing them wrong they would end the blocking game. If the relationship is new or you have just started dating then the ignoring periods would be short, but as it exceeds the initial stage the silent treatment periods keep on extending and getting longer.

When something upsets them beyond the reach of words or fury, they would not use their usual technique of lashing out their narcissistic rage but instead just block and ignore you and let you just be figuring out what went wrong until you go crazy thinking about the possible reasons. They would ignore you to the extent that you just cannot leave the matter either nor they would tell you what is wrong. It is like one of their manipulation tactics for you to make efforts for them, convincing and begging them to give you their attention. They would treat you like you no longer matter to them and you just keep attempting vague attempts to know what is wrong.

3. To redirect their anger which is caused by someone else or something else

The first and foremost reaction of a narcissist to any inconvenience caused by others is anger, rage, or wrath. If you have been with a narcissist you might be aware of their anger issues. They feel more agitated than usual when you ask them to reflect upon something. They would be harsh with their words. They would try to hurt you emotionally.

Rage is one of their most used emotion and when a narcissist is hurt by someone else, they would take it out on the person who is closest to them. Sometimes a narcissist just shuts down their emotions and chooses methods like rage, ignoring, silent treatment, blocking, or even disappearing for days. You would spend your days in concern that what has gone wrong, but in reality, they would be projecting someone else’s rage on you by blocking you.

They might even call you names or use abusive vocabulary when you expose their truth, but do not get disheartened or terrified by their rage, as it is their go-to tactic to outburst their rage on you. And thus when they fall even short of words, they would just block you and ignore you for weeks without any information as to what is wrong.

4. To prove a point

When a narcissist needs to prove a point without doing much and when you constantly keep on challenging them, they would simply block you just to make a point that they are always right. A narcissist is an incorrigible person who is not able to acknowledge their own mistakes and considers themselves spotless and perfect. They try to be perfectionists and idealists and claim veneration.

Narcissists are well aware of where they lack, where they are not fond of the way they act or do not like themselves at many times but never admit it. Instead, they would reciprocate all the hate toward the people near them or involved in their life. They would never show their weak spots as they have a strong defense mechanism and they would never admit that they are wrong. Instead, they would concentrate all this energy on just proving a point by blocking you before you even realize it.

Narcissist desires your undivided attention all the time. So when your attention is split between them and someone else or something else they get so jealous of that and even start making you feel unwanted, small, and devalued in their life and thus give you the silent treatment by blocking you for a long time.

5. When they have found a new source for obtaining their narcissistic supply

Narcissists are always in search of a fresh supply and people tend to fall victim to their many charms. One of them is mirroring. They would be impressing you with words you like, their likes and dislikes would match yours, and they would be pretending to understand you in a way that nobody else could making a comfortable atmosphere for you to be impressed by their mirroring techniques.

They may leave you when they find someone better than you or for fulfilling their magnified needs for lovemaking. To fulfill their empty and shallow life, narcissists gain attention, praise, and whatever they need to present their grandiosity of life. So if they are getting all of these needs fulfilled by someone else in a better manner they might leave you for their new source of supply and to ensure that you do not become a hindrance to their new plan of switching partners, they would block you even without informing you. They are selfish and do not care for anything much, thus blocking would be much easy for them.

When a narcissist leaves or discards you, for a new source of supply, and when they find that the new source is no longer providing them what they want or they have run out of resources (here, narcissistic supply elements; Supply is everything that makes them important like control, praise, worth, ego boost, and everything that makes them feel superior.) then they come to their old source of supply hence they unblock you then after blocking you for the time they want.

6. To spice up the relationship

Narcissist easily gets bored of things and people and thus they like to keep things fresh and going. So when a narcissist feels you have lost your charm, or the relationship is getting dull, they would simply block you, leave you to figure out the reason, and enjoy the scenario.

A narcissist would be smeared by you in the initial stages when they might have met you and might have approached you. You might have intrigued them initially, but once they suck complete supply out of you, or when you lose that initial charm or you keep bothering the constantly, or when you want to take the relationship to the next level, or when you demand so much from them, they would just block and ignore you until things spice up or get interesting.

Narcissists enjoy sadistic pleasure, so they like to see you in pain, especially pain caused by them.

7. It is just a choice made by solely the narcissist to feel powerful and it has nothing to do with you

Blocking you is just a choice sometimes made by solely the narcissist to feel powerful and it has nothing to do with you so do not get concerned when they block you as they do this to make their life clutter-free. When a narcissist feels that so much is going on in their life, narcissist would declutter by blocking everyone so that they can think and act clearly without any hindrance to the process.

8. When a narcissist feels that you longer can provide them with what they want

Narcissistic supply is one of the prime reasons for them to date commit to a relationship. They do not have love as the first priority, their first priority is obtaining their supply, once they drain you completely out of supply they would leave you or might still have you as their backup source of supply. and Narcissists also have their own stock of narcissistic supply.

Conclusion

Narcissists tend to just ignore many situations or just do not prefer to get involved in the emotional drama and lurking of an ex. So narcissists choose ways like blocking, avoiding, gaslighting, ghosting, and any type of methods that can help them in avoiding a certain somebody when they feel they do not wish to get involved in certain situations.

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Ella Carrillo

Hey Reader, I am Ella, an Online and Offline Therapist holding an experience of 6 years in this field.

From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.

Why Do Narcissists Block You? (What’s Going On in their Head When Doing This?)

The making of a narcissist – Why do narcissists behave the way they do?